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There could not be a greater honour in life than being asked to write or deliver a person’s eulogy. It is a chance for you to proudly remember the life they led, the anecdotes they were a part of, the accomplishments they achieved and the impact that they had on those they knew.
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We understand the sincerity, emotions and importance attached to delivering a eulogy, but don’t be worried by the prospect of it. Here are a few helpful tips to remember when creating and performing your special speech.
Less is More, as the ancient proverb goes: 3-5 minutes is the most suitable duration; but don’t be fazed by time limits – take your time and be sure to include those special details.
Start off by introducing yourself for the benefit of those who may not know you. Brifly specify who you are and what your relationship was to the deceased.
Talk to the family, friends and companions of the deceased to help get a few ideas together. Informally discuss those funny anecdotes, special memories and achievements that make you proud to have been a part of their life. Think of your own anecdotes too, but be sure to consider whether they are suitable.
Think about the tone you think will be most suitable. While eulogies are often seen as sombre events, a light-hearted approach can be the way to go in some instances.
Struggling with how to start? Open with a few short remarks or words that sum up the deceased in the kindest way. This could be as simple as ‘Father’, ‘Mother’, ‘Traveller’ etc. Think about what they achieved in their life and try to sum it up in a few simple words.
Understandably funerals are incredibly emotional. If you feel yourself ‘go’ during your speech, take your time. No one will judge you. Stop. Breathe. Close your eyes and count to 10 before starting again. Don’t be afraid to ask someone to act as a back-up or stand in should you need them.
Close your speech on an affirming thought that will provoke positivity and happiness when your audience think of the deceased.
Don’t be afraid to ask a friend to read it through and offer feedback. It can help you feel more confident in the lead up to the day.
Most importantly, practice your speech. Read it out aloud to hear your own voice and become comfortable and confident. It may read differently to what you have written so be sure to edit.
Remember your loved ones and provide them with a memorial they truly deserve with the help of J & A Memorials.
